Posts Tagged ‘Trust’

Trust and verify

Monday, February 1st, 2010

binoculars-adultMuch has been written about the importance of people trusting their leaders. Less attention is paid to the essential quality of trust in your direct reports (sometimes referred to somewhat disparagingly as “subordinates”). There is a sweet spot of trust, somewhere between not trusting them at all, to simply doling out tasks and washing your hands of the matter.

We want to believe that our direct reports (DRs) are trustworthy. Essential characteristics for trust are integrity, competence, transparency, reliability and commitment. When we see or even sense a waffling in any of these qualities on the part of a DR, trust is damaged.

Even when trust is high, you can’t delegate and walk away. You should verify progress:

At the point of delegation. Don’t assume anything, even if the person you’re delegating to has a proven track record of success. Make sure you align on impact, results, boundaries and mutual responsibilities. Include how and when updates on progress will be given.

At agreed-upon milestones. No news isn’t good news when it comes to a key assignment. If your DR doesn’t come to you, seek her out, reminding her of your delegation agreement.

If the DR requests time. There may be a hiccup you’re not aware of; be available for consultation and don’t shoot the messenger if the news is bad.

When changes will impact success. Get involved when plans need to be altered due to unexpected circumstances.

If you sense something is wrong. Your “spidey senses” are tingling. Maybe the DR’s demeanor has shifted or you have heard rumors that there’s a glitch. If you have a gut feeling that something’s amiss, follow up on it.

As soon as you realize that your delegation process was incomplete. Re-align with the DR when you realize you left out vital information the first time around.

If you find yourself verifying frequently, you’ll give the impression that you don’t trust the DR’s ability. Figure out why you can’t chill out and let the DR do his job. Are you a control freak? Is the project more fun than your own job? Do you really NOT trust this person, but don’t have the courage to say so? Face up to the real reason you keep checking in, and take steps to reclaim the “sweet spot” of trust and verify. Your direct report will grow more capable, and you can get back to the strategic responsibilities that need your attention.

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Three laws of influence

Thursday, July 9th, 2009

network-of-peopleInfluence is at the heart of leadership. To be even a modestly successful leader, you must be able to “sell” your ideas and be open to even better ideas that people  bring to the table.

The quantity and quality of your relationships matter. You need to have a sufficiently large web of connections to get the job done. And the relationships with those people need to be rock solid. How do you make sure that you have positive bonds with the people you need to connect with? Start with the three laws of influence.

The Law of Big Things: Take on what you can handle and deliver 100% of the time. Failure is not an option, or at least it should be a rarity. Otherwise, you impact your integrity and the degree of trust people can have in you to follow through. The Law of Big Things requires an honest assessment of your capabilities, the time required and your competing priorities.

The Law of Little Things: Fulfill the social contract. “Little things” include everyday courtesies, manners, helpfulness, hospitality and a friendly demeanor. Don’t take for granted that you already abide by The Law of Little Things. It’s all too easy to get caught up in your “busy-ness” and lose sight of common civilities.

The Law of Reciprocity: Seek first to be influenced, listen, trust and value others. You build your ability to influence by practicing The Law of Reciprocity, which is much like the good old Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you want to influence, allow yourself to be influenced. If you want others to listen, do so yourself. You really do reap what you sow.

Influence depends upon the quality of the relationships you build over time and the degree of trust you inspire. Influence depends less upon what you say and more upon what you do.  As Zig Zigler noted, “The most important persuasion tool in your entire arsenal is integrity.”

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If you want loyalty, get a dog

Thursday, April 2nd, 2009

dogMarketing folks have a saying, “If you want loyalty, get a dog.” Customer loyalty, it seems, is a myth. Is employee loyalty a thing of the past, too?

Nope. But too many leaders focus on loyalty at the expense of true leadership.

Perhaps the definition of loyalty is the problem. I had a boss once who demanded loyalty. Unfortunately what passed for loyalty was not asking unwanted questions, telling her what she wanted to hear, and towing the line.

We want employees to be loyal. But to what? Ultimately, we want our people to be steadfast in their commitment to the organization and its mission. How do we get that? Through great leadership.

Great leaders inspire loyalty, often without trying for that outcome. They build emotional commitments based on trust and credibility. Most importantly,  they’re able to nurture dedicated employees who are loyal to the organization, not just the leader.

It is said that no (wo)man can serve two masters. Are your people serving you as the leader, or is their first loyalty to the organization?

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